Category Archives: the big table

adventure is at the big table, where chris proposed . . . and amy said yes!

the big table is a magical place. when jeremy built it for me some two years ago, he did so because I felt like we needed it. my dad had just passed away a few months before that, and I wanted to have a place where we could connect to him, where what we were doing here on our square patch of earth would mirror what he was getting to do in heaven. I had no idea just how magical and miraculous a place it would become for me. but each time we host another big table dinner night, I find myself overwhelmed in the best possible way. food is prepared, flowers are purchased, linens are cleaned, china is selected and the silver is brought out, and stories are shared, all in anticipation of the mystery. the mystery is just that…something we can’t quite put our fingers on, but that everyone at the table is very aware that we are all trees in a story about a forest..we are part of some grander, more beautiful drama than we ever imagined.

amy is a magical person. the first time I met her, we were under the stars as she played a farm show, and I was immediately gripped at the mystery going on around her…the same mystery I described above. her music is powerful, but to watch her live is even more so. and that is just the beginning of who she is. we were convinced by the end of the night that our meeting was about to lead to a deep, abiding friendship, but we had no idea how true that was. I have laughed and wept with this dear friend. I’ve watched her fall apart, and watched God put her back together..and she has done the exact same for me.

so when we decided to host her birthday dinner at the big table months earlier, we couldn’t have had any idea just how heavenly the night would become…as chris had decided it was also the night he was going to ask her to become his wife. so we potted succulents, washed off the big table, and brought out the burlap, the lace that used to cover my nana’s table, and the antique english china my mom gave me when we were engaged. we poured the wine, filled the shasta oven-turned-cooler with beer, plugged the lights in, and turned the music on. friends came from near and far, bearing casseroles and pies (amy bringing her specialty sweet potato pie) and we had a night of laughing, crying happy tears, and toasting amy…chris gave his toast last. we all thought it only fitting, since his came with a ring at the end.

we couldn’t have been happier to play a part, both in the story of lovely amy’s life, and in the story of her and chris beginning their forever. here’s our meager attempt to bring you into the mystery, both in photographs, and in a very honest rough cut short film . . . enjoy, friends!

Charles McCarthy - 09/04/2013 - 1:30 pm

I love the atmosphere and intimacy you have captured in these images, really nice!

ashley - 05/22/2013 - 3:37 pm

captured beautifully. brought tears to my eyes. i count it an honor to have met amy whilst her short visit in montana in 2011… it’s amazing to see where God has taken her from that point into this beautiful new chapter.

Apryl Ann - 11/08/2012 - 12:10 pm

This just brought tears to my eyes and made my morning. What a magical day for both of them.

Meredith Adams - 10/12/2012 - 11:45 pm

tears welling in my eyes.
lump forming in my throat.
so happy.
you guys have such a gift. thank you for documenting love and showing it to the world.

Joyce Alexander - 10/12/2012 - 8:49 pm

In love with the moments you captured and the whole set for this wedding. So brilliant and sweet.

Lyndzee - 09/20/2012 - 2:45 pm

Oh what a special evening. Good friends are such an amazing blessing. So happy for them as well.

Drew Renner - 09/20/2012 - 11:23 am

I love Amy’s music!

abby mortenson - 09/20/2012 - 12:58 am

i like this so so much. Even more I think because I had the privilege of hearing some of Amy’s story at the Beloved festival. Oh, how He loves us!

Stew - 09/20/2012 - 12:53 am

Literally, the only words out of my mouth at the end of this post .. Oh wow! Enough said.

Anni - 09/18/2012 - 10:18 am

Oh, this is a little piece of heaven – a magical place indeed. This is such a beautiful post, thank you for sharing it.

jac kaiser - 09/16/2012 - 1:33 am


Ali Migliore - 09/12/2012 - 9:56 pm

Oh my goodness, you guys are absolutely phenomenal. This is SUCH a beautiful post of what seems like the greatest backyard dinner. Thank you so much for sharing this beauty!

xo – Ali

gina - 09/11/2012 - 6:49 am

priceless memories, captured beautifully…. so happy for Amy xo

Colsie Conradie - 09/11/2012 - 4:26 am

This is magical. Thank you for sharing…

nirav - 09/11/2012 - 12:30 am

You two are an inspiration :). Keep making amazing memories my friends.

Gail Krauthoff - 09/11/2012 - 12:24 am

Amy we so enjoyed seeing this and are absolutely thrilled that you are so very happy. We have not met Chris but he seems to be a real love of a man. We are so happy that you are happy now, God’s timing is always so very perfect and we really thank your mom for sending us this oh so special link. We do not know Ashley and Jeremy but we can tell that they are true friends. God bless you both and BTW when are you to get married?!
Love to you, Gail and Chappy

Diane Trautman - 09/08/2012 - 8:16 pm

Beautifully done! Thank you for sharing. Chris’s father and I are cousins. I had the opportunity to finally meet Chris last December. I’m so happy for him and his fiancĂ©.

sharon - 09/08/2012 - 3:47 pm

I smiled and laughed and cried as I watched the video and took in your words and images. I don’t have adequate words. Hearing how you described the big table, knowing the Why behind it, feeling the magic at the table in CO. How grateful I am for that experience and how happy for Amy, to have God’s love and mystery showered all over her after the hard turns in the road. Just so so so incredibly beautiful and full of joy this all is!

James Boddington - 09/08/2012 - 3:03 pm

Absolutely stunning, heartfelt images and congratulations Amy and Chris

lizsong - 09/08/2012 - 10:46 am

:) happiness…..

Kimmy - 09/07/2012 - 8:39 pm

I love it! Thank you so much for sharing. Other people’s happiness makes me happy. Rough cut?! It was beautiful!

Katie K - 09/07/2012 - 5:46 pm

This is complete magic to me, in every possible way.

marissa - 09/07/2012 - 3:44 pm

what an amazing moment captured so beautifully! loved this…and yes it brought me to tears too!!

Stephanie - 09/07/2012 - 3:34 pm

ohmygosh. This is so sweet and beautiful and tear-inducing!

porter - 09/07/2012 - 3:33 pm

Amy is a great person. I met her a few years ago. These images show & prove that as you can see the glow in her face. What a great gift for them to remember a beautiful evening.

Valerie Welty - 09/07/2012 - 3:23 pm

Ok …. so I’m great friends with Chris’ Mom and I just had lunch with her two days ago and got to hear all about Amy. I don’t know her but after watching this and seeing all the pictures, all I can say is “WOW”! What a keepsake this all will be for them. And I too had tears because it was pure love and friendship at its best. What a beautiful thing you all did for Chris and Amy … I think your big table, the beautiful china, the lights, the wine and mostly the people made this a wonderful occasion! Thank you for sharing this! Very, very creative too!

shannon - 09/07/2012 - 2:27 pm

thank you. Thank you for making my cry my eyes out at my office. :) Amy is one of the most beautiful souls I know and I am lucky to call her my friend. To see this gave me a small glimpse into this magical evening and feel like I was there to celebrate with her, if even just a little.

Keaton Webb - 09/07/2012 - 2:15 pm

Absolutely beautiful. Such a joy to see two people in love and so incredibly happy about it. :)

susan yee - 09/07/2012 - 1:49 pm

this is magic. PURE MAGIC. amy, i am SO THRILLED FOR YOU. you are so cute, i loved seeing you so happy! joy was spilling everywhere, and i loved being able to see it!! ash & jeremy, you did SUCH a beautiful job, creating, giving and sharing. LOVE! xoxoxo

Caroline Fontenot - 09/07/2012 - 1:44 pm

You make me want to tell better stories with cameras.

Mike Hadley - 09/07/2012 - 1:18 pm

Awe! Mr. Messenger is growing up so fast!

sara mcd - 09/07/2012 - 12:08 pm

no one is more deserving of this happiness. so beautifully captured.

taylor - 09/07/2012 - 12:04 pm

I’m crying in the middle of the library…this is not okay!!!! so beautiful.

suzy - 09/07/2012 - 11:38 am

these photos bring me to tears. the night is perfect, and the moment is so well-captured. good golly! so thankful God lets us have these moments in time, eh?

anna - 09/07/2012 - 11:08 am

bawling. this is just so stinkin beautiful! I can’t imagine a more perfect birthday turned engagment in all of the universe. There is magic in the big table, i just know it. :)

amanda vanvels - 09/07/2012 - 10:28 am

i cried my little eyes out. so beautiful!

Ruth - 09/07/2012 - 10:17 am!! How do you do it? Stop! Love this! I actually thought I was there!

Anjali - 09/07/2012 - 9:54 am

love love love….and you guys to capture it! <3

Kaley - 09/07/2012 - 9:53 am

This is incredible. I couldn’t help but cry. I think this was a perfect. I could watch that little film over and over. Congratulations to Amy. They seem like a beautiful couple. xx

Hannah Nicole - 09/07/2012 - 9:35 am

This is something special. So heartfelt and beautiful, as always, a and j. :)

Carly - 09/07/2012 - 9:33 am

Bawled my eyes out. This is just so beautiful! What a wonderful gift to have filmed and photographed this beautiful evening. Incredible xo

Stephanie Lyell - 09/07/2012 - 9:22 am

This is completly beautiful. That is all there is to say. Love and beauty abides with you all and who you come into contact with-that is 100% obvious. I’ve never met you all-but I just need to tell you that your work is so inspiring. Not just because you take good photos (which you do), but because there is so much in the photos, in the story, in the words that points to something bigger and grander. Thank you for doing what you do. Blessings.