it’s the end of veteran’s day weekend. and it has me thinking about who we are, about us, we are the parsons, and who we want to become. we are 11 1/2 years into the wild wonderful, painful, messy, beautiful adventure called marriage. and I say each of those words very intentionally. our lives together have had moments that felt so close to heaven that it almost feels unfair that we get to experience this life together. and then there have been those other moments. those ones that have us in shambles, in tears, wondering how we are going to keep going together. we haven’t figured out how to avoid the fight. we haven’t managed to escape pain together. but we have progressively been learning, more and more as the years pass and loved ones pass and we fail each other, that it is worth it. the fight is worth it. the pain is worth it. and in the end, we want to be standing together, or in our wheelchairs together, holding hands. veterans. two imperfect people who decided it was a better story to put up a fight and choose our marriage for the long haul than to give up.
I say all of that because anytime we come across others who are fighting for marriage alongside of us, we grow in hope. to be able to share joys and triumphs as well as fears and sorrows with another married couple is a great gift, and one that not everybody has. When we met the kaisers (known to many of you as theimageisfound, the absolutely beyond brilliant husband and wife photography duo) we had no idea that years later we would have the great honor of not only calling them one of those couples we share life with, but also championing their marriage as we photographed their 10 year vow renewal.
it wasn’t flashy. they rented a house in joshua tree, took their children, grace and jasper, the two of us, and went back to the very same rock in joshua tree national park that they had stood on as nate proposed 10 years earlier. they wrote each other vows for the first time, and with complete raw honesty, they committed their lives to each other again.
it was one of those close to heaven moments. and we are so thankful to have been there, to have played a part in celebrating these two and their family legacy.
nate and jaclyn, thank you for bringing us into your world, for reminding us what marriage is all about, and for taking another step to becoming veterans of marriage.
we love you guys.